There are many bachelors and spinsters who have remained single because they claim to be waiting for God to choose wives or husbands for them. Marriage is not man’s idea. It originated from the creator of man. Every brand new car comes with a manufacturers’ manual that must be complied with. Marriage has a manufacturers’ manual, the Holy Bible. So, let us go to the beginning. In Genesis chapter 1, God created the world. In verse 26, he said: “Let us (God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit) make man in our image, according to our likeness, let them have dominion…” So, God created man with a dominion mandate. God as a spirit was not in flesh form. So, he needed mankind or human being to take care of his investment or creation.
“So, God created man in his own image, in the image of God, He created Him; male and female, He created them” (Genesis 1:27). In the eyes of God, a husband and a wife are Him. They cease to be two different people from the moment a marital vow is taken before the altar of God after a traditional marriage rite has been performed officially.
When God created man, with woman (man with a womb) or female (male with additional feeling/emotion) inside of man, God’ desire was the comfort of man. So, God created a garden for him, created food, animals and other things for man’s pleasure. It was even Adam that gave names to the things that God created.
“Out of the ground, the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air and to every beast of the field.
BUT FOR ADAM, THERE WAS NOT FOUND A HELPER COMPARABLE TO HIM” (Genesis 2:19-20). Adam had the option of even having sex with any of the animals and have them serve as helper; but they did not attract him for this purpose. God’s leading purpose of creating marriage are companionship and procreation. No animal can serve this purpose to man. So, if you are having sex with an animal, you are violating God’s original order. In other words, you are an enemy of God.
God said: “It is not good that a man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him” (Genesis 2:18). Note that God did not say, “I will give him a helper.” In trying to guide or assist man in choice of helper, he only gave man options.
God had to present another option to Adam since he was not impressed with animals and other things.He “caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam and he slept, and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then, the rib which the Lord God had taken from man, He made into a woman and he brought her to the man” (Genesis 2:21-22).
Adam welcomed this option of helper. Remember that he took the decision on helper by himself. God did not force him to accept the woman. Read this: “And Adam said: “This is NOW bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called WOMAN because she was taken out of man” (Genesis 2:23). You can see that it was Adam that gave the name, WOMAN to her.
Romantic! Isn’t it? It was after Adam accepted woman as his helper that God declared: “Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). So, after you have chosen your own wife or husband from the numerous options available and you have gone to the altar of God to swear to an oath on wedding day, you MUST comply with this divine declaration of lean ing and cleaving because you are now one flesh forever.
So, God does not choose wife or husband for people, except that you MUST comply with the manual (Bible) of the marriage inventor (God) in your process of choosing, and the eventual operation of the marital life after the vow. Otherwise, you incur God’s wrath and cause unnecessary marital problems for yourself and possibly, truncate your destiny. Remember that God was very angry when after the fall of Adam, he passed the blame to God saying “the woman you gave me…” (Genesis 3:12).
That was actually a false accusation because God left with Adam, the power of choice and he chose the woman by himself as his helper. Choosing your spouse is your responsibility and God wants you to be responsible. If you are not ready to be responsible, you are neither ready nor qualified for marriage.
There is another scriptural evidence to convince you that your choice of husband or wife is your responsibility. In Numbers chapter 36, there were fears about giving an inheritance to some female singles for fear that the inheritance could end up with their husbands when they eventually get married. This matter was brought before Moses.
What was his response? “This is what the Lord commands concerning the daughters of Zelophehad, saying “LET THEM MARRY WHOM THEY THINK BEST but they may marry only within the family of their father’s tribe (believers/ descendants of Father Abraham) (Numbers 36:6). We shall look at the case of Joseph and Mary next week.
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