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Mother’s day: A day not for the hurt

Mothers are, perhaps, sweetest gift from God to all. There is no way they can ever be thanked enough. For all that a mother does, it would only be too good to make it a habit to keep reminding oneself of the various sacrifices she made while raising the children. Mother’s Day is the best time to say in words how much you love and care for your mum. Oluwatosin Omoniyi writes

 

The mind-boggling question is if the above expression of mother still holds sway dearly for most children especially those forced into early marriage or sold into sex slavery. And for the mothers, it is in doubt if they are still expectant of their children’s appreciation. A poet, Sandeep Gupta wrote a lovely poem in sweet memory of ‘Mother’

Mother is a part of God.
Mother is a part of Love.
Mother is a part of our Strength.
Mother is a part of our Winning.
Mother is a part of who direct us
to right path to proceed.
and ..and ..so on..
I Love my Mother very much…..
Don’t let ur Mother get
away from u….
Happy Mother’s Day….

Yes, those forced into marriage, child labour or by circumstances forced into prostitution may not remember to wish their mothers well as they also may be battling with the challenges life throws at them.

A typical example is 19-yearold Sudanese woman who was sentenced to death for fatally stabbing the man she was forced to marry, who she says raped her as his relatives held her down.

The case of Noura Hussein has shone a spotlight on the issues of forced marriage and marital rape in Sudan, where the legal age of marriage is only 10 and marital rape is legal.

Hussein’s supporters filled the courtroom in Omdurman, Sudan, and overflowed into the hall outside as the judge announced her death penalty. Her husband’s family refused an option to pardon her and rejected financial compensation, requesting that she be executed instead. Unfortunately, Hussein’s legal team has only 15 days to appeal.

“She’s still in complete shock after her sentencing today,” Dr. Adil Mohamed Al-Imam, one of Hussein’s lawyers, told CNN. Al-Imam donated his services after Hussein’s original lawyer withdrew from the case.

He added that Hussein was abandoned not only by the law, but also by her family. Her story have set social media and WhatsApp ablaze in Sudan. And in recent days it has captured international attention with the hashtags #JusticeforNoura and #SaveNoura. Thousands of people have shared a change.org petition.

Forced to marry at 15, Hussein ran away from home and sought refuge with her aunt for three years. She was tricked into returning by her father, who handed her over to her husband’s family. After Hussein refused to consummate the marriage, her husband’s relatives held her down while he raped her. “His brother and two cousins tried to reason with her, when she refused, she was slapped and ordered into the room.

One held her chest and head, the others held her legs,”Al-Imam told CNN. A day later, her husband tried to rape her again, and she stabbed him to death. When she went to her parents for support, they turned her in to the police. Amnesty International’s Sudan researcher, Ahmed Elzobier, said it was the first time a case of this nature had attracted such attention. “Marital rape happens in Sudan often and people don’t talk about it,” he said.

Hussein’s case had changed that, he said. Shahd Hamza, 20, was among those who came to support Hussein in court, after hearing about her case in a group chat on WhatsApp. She said that while the rape and harassment of women had long been an issue in Sudan, a case like Hussein’s had never gone viral.

Nahid Gabralla, director of SEEMA, a nongovernmental organisation working with victims and survivors of gender-based violence in the capital, Khartoum, has been campaigning in support of Hussein. “In my work I’ve seen other cases like this.

The suffering of Sudanese women is happening all the time,” Gabralla said. “The case of Noura is different. She stood for her rights.” Another example was a teenage wife remanded for allegedly killing husband, Umar Sani, 37, with `rat poison’.

The police in Kano are on her trail. The Public Relations Officer of the Police Command in the state, Magaji Majiya,disclosed in an interview with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Kano that the relations of the late husband reported the incident to Kofar Wambai Police station in Kano metropolis on Monday. He said, “after the Police received the report on the incident, they went to their matrimonial home at Yakasai quarters in Kano metropolis but found that the bride had run away,” he said.

“Our men had already swung into action with a view to trailing and arresting her to face prosecution,” the police spokesman said. According to him, the command will ensure that due process is followed in the investigation in order to ascertain the circumstances that led to the dastardly act.

On the killing of a kidnapped sixyear- old boy at Dabai quarters in Gwale Local Government Area of the state, Mr. Majiya said the State Security Services (SSS) had arrested the principal suspect.

“The DSS has promised to transfer the case to the state Criminals Investigation Department (CID) for further investigation, ” he said. He said as soon as investigation was completed, the suspect and all other accomplices would be charged to court. A teenager from Birmingham has told a court how her mother threatened to tear up her passport if she did not marry a man by whom she had become pregnant at the age of 13.

The girl, now 19, said she cried through a wedding ceremony and begged her mother for help after being forced into the 2016 marriage in Pakistan, four years after her pregnancy.

She told jurors that prior to the event her mother, who is charged with two counts of forced marriage, also bribed her with a smartphone. She claimed her mother became angry when she told her she did not want to marry the 33-year-old Pakistani national – a man by whom she had become pregnant on a previous visit in 2012 when she was 13 and he was 29.

She told Birmingham crown court how she felt like an “object that could be moved from place to place” and feared her mother would be angry and disappointed if she did not comply with her wishes.

She said: “I knew I was in Pakistan. I had nowhere to go. I had to do whatever was asked.” Another teenage victim of a forced marriage joked about her parents “giving her away” weeks before she flew to Bangladesh. According to the 19-yearold, she was lured on a sham holiday July 3 2016 to force her to marry her cousin.

She told a court that her parents, who cannot be named for legal reasons, are on trial at Leeds Crown Court via a Bengali interpreter. They both deny charges of attempting to coerce their daughter into marrying without her consent.

The Leeds woman used her phone to send her location details to her boyfriend, who then informed West Yorkshire Police on 11 July she may be in danger, prompting her eventual rescue, the jury heard. Giving evidence from behind a screen, her boyfriend told the court that three weeks before flying to Bangladesh, the teenager had mentioned her father selling his possessions and joked: “What if he is planning to give me away?” “I could only think about one thing… and that’s the Asian culture of arranged marriage,” he said.

However, he claimed he took her remark to be a “joke” and was not initially worried. But it was not until seven days into the trip that the woman contacted him and, in one message, told him not to text her “for a while”, he told the court.

The boyfriend told jurors he became concerned as a result and suspected her parents were forcing her into an arranged marriage. He messaged her saying: “You could have seen this coming,” the court was told. He described how he became “terrified” and “scared”. “She was far away and I did not know what was happening,” he told the jury.

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