Today, many people are in marriage for the wrong reasons. Some others entered the marital institution with right motives but married the wrong persons. Many more are on their way to say “I do” without having a right picture of what marriage should be. No thanks to modern exposure to wrong massive information sources. For you to marry correctly, you need to know what works and what does not work. For instance, emotion does not work in determining your life partner. Why? Emotions are discriminatory.
You can fall in love with even a demon in human form that appeals to your fancy. But if someone is not your spouse, that person is not. Majority of troubled marriages today began with the phrase, “I love you,” That is because it is how we feel. Unfortunately, our feelings do not have the capacity to see tomorrow. Feelings are only skin deep.
“Favour is vain and beauty is deceitful but a woman that fears the Lord, she shall be praised” (Proverbs 31:30). Choosing the right person to marry involves understanding of divine ingredients because marriage is beyond what your emotions can fix. So, there are so many things that people think marriage is, which marriage is not. Marriage is not: 1. JUST A WEDDING CEREMONY: Marriage is not just a wedding ceremony. Wedding ceremony is a one-day ceremony. Marriage is a lifetime affair.
Besides, the wedding vow or covenant made before the altar of God on wedding day is a spiritual phenomenon involving destiny. Once you break it, something is already after you.Until you confess your act of adultery, ask God for forgiveness, repent and forsake your sins, there is trouble. You cannot despise this vow: “I Brother/Sister ABC do accept you, Brother/Sister XYZ as my wife/husband to have and to hold, for better for worse.
I will love you in plenty, in poverty, in good health and sickness. I will nurse and honour you according to the will of God till death do us part.” 2. A CLASS-DRIVEN ENGAGEMENT: A marriage that emerged based on class and economic interests may not work. If you are looking for a guy or lady that shares the same social class or economic class with you; someone who drives the kind of car you drive, lives in the same exclusive and posh area of town like you, travels a lot and is very rich, you are looking for a class-driven relationship. To get genuine happiness in your relationship, you should look for a life partner irrespective of class differences.
It is only within the class of people with Christ’s nature that you can have guarantee of a successful marriage. Please note that I am not talking about mere church goers. “For no other foundation can anyone lay than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ” (1st Corinthians 3:11). 3. INTERNET-BASED RELATIONSHIP: You met someone on the social media. You proposed marriage to the person or accepted marriage to the person via same medium.
If at all there was a courtship, it was done via phone or internet communication. Now, you claim to be legally married to someone you have never met one-on-one. My dear, you are still unmarried because that imagination you are married to is still a stranger. Marriage is not like making an online purchase of a piece of furniture. It is a more serious business. 4. SAME SEX MARRIAGE: This is exhibition of a form of mental disorder which unfortunately, violates Biblical injunctions. (Leviticus 18:22, Genesis 9).
There is something medical doctors call psychosomatic illness. It means ‘disease of the soul.’ This is what parties involved in same-sex relationship have, and only the power of the resurrected Jesus Christ can heal it or deliver them from it if they repent and surrender their hearts to him. There is even a penalty involved. “Like wise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful and receiving in themselves, the PENALTY of their error which was due” (Romans 1:27).
Every motive behind homosexuality is a product of man’s wisdom and “the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. For it is written, He catches the wise in their own craftiness” (1st Corinthians 3:19). 5. ABOUT YOUR PARTNER’S SPIRITUAL TITLE: Today, many people claim to be born again but many of such people are not different from those who display ungodly values anymore. Those who are truly born again are many.
Those who are not, are also many. Fake pastors, prophets, apostles, choristers, bishops and other fake spiritual title bearers abound. Therefore, in choosing a wife or husband, do not be comfortable with the mere fact that the person bears a spiritual title. Anybody can bear any title. Don’t be gullible. Study character. It is good character that sustains marriage and not spiritual title. 6. A MAN-MADE CONCEPT: Marriage is not man’s idea.
It originated from God. Every brand new car comes with a manufacturer’s manual. Any attempt to operate the car outside the manual’s specifications will lead to problems. In the same vein, any attempt to operate marriage outside the standards of its originator as specified in the word of God will result in challenges. You can place an order for a copy of the book, MAKING YOUR MARRIAGE WORK by Albinus Chiedu. Your marriage shall be a blessing and a testimony in Jesus name.
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