I had cause to advise a lady who was about to get married some time ago. It was very easy for me to see that sometimes superior to him. How did I know? Through the way, she kept criticizing and correcting the young man, And it was so clear that he was not enjoying it at all. The lady was alarmed when I informed her when we were alone together that she will soon lose her man if care is not taken. To her, she was trying to teach the man good manners but to the man, it was not funny. I made her realize that no man, likes a woman behaving superior to him. No normal woman also likes being seen as the inferior partner in a marriage. I also made her realize that there were many things she did wrong but for which she ended up blaming her man due to her superiority complex. It took a long time for her to agree that she had a problem of always thinking that her man was the one always wrong. She had the problem of thinking that she was superior to her man and people who think that they are superior to their spouses always think that they are never wrong. You are likely to see many husbands and wives who think that the problem in the marriage is not coming from them but their spouse. They never see anything wrong themselves but rather keep looking at their spouse as the problem.
Such people like always pointing out things that were not done properly. It is so glaring that such persons will make the marriage hard for their spouses.
They will always have hard areas to correct and areas to point out a fault. If you are in a marriage relationship and you keep seeing yourself as the superior partner while your spouse is the inferior partner, you need to take a good and critical look at yourself.
The superiority complex of some spouses is doing a lot of harm to their marriages. They need to deliberately become more humble even if they think they know more than their spouses.
They should use their knowledge to make their spouses feel better and not feel inferior. Throughout my years at school, Fund out that I learned more from teachers and lecturers who taught learnability than those who taught in pride.
The point I am trying to make here is that correcting a spouse should be done with a spirit of humility, meekness, and not out of superiority. Gal 6:1 says “Brethren,n, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which is spiritual, restore such a one in the spirit meekness;”
You cannot maintain a healthy relationship if you feel superior to your partner. Nobody enjoys having somebody who behaves as a superior boss as a spouse. You need to put yourself in the shoes of that person you think is permanently inferior to you in wisdom, knowledge, understanding, and all departments of life. When you do, you will realize that as you would not like it, so does that spouse not like it one bit.
Check it if you are always seeing yourself as having done nothing wrong. Check it if you never see any contribution from your spouse as better than your own. Check it if you do not accept the correction of any sort from your spouse or the people.
Check it if there is nothing wrong with anything you do but everything is wrong with what your spouse does. I pray that God will give all of us the wisdom to make our spouses happy, better, and not bitter. Love you.