When negative reinforcement works, when it fails

To put it mildly, parenting can be rough. It’s difficult to know what to do, especially with a toddler or young child, quick thinking is required. As the mom of a 2-year-old, I’ll admit that sometimes my brain doesn’t react fast enough. Recently at a museum store, my son grabbed a toy off the rack and, with remarkable speed, ripped open the box to reveal the shiny and new train inside. Of course, following the basic “you break it, you buy it” rule that my own mother had to follow…

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Why most women look older than their husbands

When growing up I remember hearing that as a young woman it was better to marry a man reasonably older than you so that you do not end up looking older than him. The source of this advice I do not know, well, we can easily classify it as one of old wives’ tales. There was hardly any girl growing up in our time who didn’t hear that. Many were guided by it, others couldn’t be bothered. Things have changed drastically, these days we have women who are far older…

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Nothing ungodly about child adoption – Ighodalo

  Growing negative public perception about child adoption has become a worrisome issue that has attracted the big wigs of the society to deliberate on it. In this view, Mrs. Dolapo Osinbajo, wife of Vice President Yemi Osinbajo and the founder of The Heritage Homes Orphanage, Pastor Ituah Ighodalo, are among the dignitaries expected at an event tagged, “The power of adoption”, which was put together by a Non-Governmental Organization, The Heritage Adoption Support and Advocacy Group (HASAAG). Speaking at a press briefing on the event, Pastor Ighodalo called for…

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Waging war against gender imbalance

  The world over, gender equality happens to be a global anthem; however it is a dream yet to be realized. Several efforts have been inputted into activities geared towards achieving respect and acceptance by people of opposite gender either in the areas of ideas, attitudes, and occupation. In all, none can boast of a one hundred percent attainment of the goal ‘gender equality,’ this could be very discouraging. As the saying goes, “strength lies in tenacity,” efforts towards terminating gender equality thrive without compromise. It is in this regard…

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Setting girls on the wings of technology

  The general notion in the society today is that women are inferior to men. Many are of the view that the role of a woman does not extend beyond the kitchen. While women are denied equal treatment in inheritance rights, human resources development and sustainable growth, also, they still have limited access to education. Even in the society, corporate environments, e.t.c. they are regarded as inferior. Most offensive is the notion by some men that women are objects of pleasure, balm of relief on their pains or piece of…

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Why marriages failed

  Every Saturday, a knot-tying ceremony is being celebrated somewhere. People attend wedding ceremonies with smiles on their faces and best wishes on their lips, however these fairy love tales hardly have a happy ending. The high rate of divorce in the society is one of major concern to everybody considering the negative implications of broken homes on the products of such homes and the society at large. The purpose and aim of marriage is established in all holy books available on planet earth. Many counsellors, pastors and professionals in…

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Digital Heroine: Helping children manage screen addiction

Over the weekend I attended a school of parenting session organized by Daystar Christian Centre. The topic of discussion was ‘Digital Heroine’. Having a discourse on this has become necessary at a time when the ‘screens’ have become a huge part of our lives – TV, computers, tablets, smart phones, gaming devices etc, and very naturally our children are not left out. To help participants get a good grasp of the topic, the organizers played a video showing two families with young children and how they have allowed technology to…

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Tackling maternal mortality with equipment

Last week, wife of the Lagos State Governor, Mrs Bolanle Ambode, through the Committee of Wives of Lagos State Officials, COWLSO, donated an ultra-modern Intensive Care Unit to the Lagos Island Maternity and other equipment to four other general hospitals in the state to check maternal mortality. Muritala Ayinla reports Despite sensitizations on health tips and information on safe delivery attended by expectant women in Nigeria, the rate of women who die during child birth in the public and private health facilities in the country is still on the high…

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Ita-Giwa, Ojikutu, others in fresh women’s revolt to save motherland

Though it comes with some ferocity, this is not like Aba Women’s Revolt of 1929, in fact, nothing in this fresh movement takes the semblance of Abeokuta Women’s revolt of 1940. Senator Florence Ita-Giwa; exdeputy governor of Lagos State, Alhaja Sinatu Ojikutu, Barister Kafilat Ogbara and some women across all strata of the nation pained by the threatening drums of war manifesting in calls for secession, have birthed a movement to engage the government and the people in healthy dialogues to foster peace and unity in Nigeria. In commemoration of…

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Study: Don’t tell your kids they’re smart

As a parent, it seems obvious, right? You try to boost your child’s self-esteem. You tell them when they do a good job on the soccer field or shine particularly bright at their flute recital. However, a new study found that if you’re telling your kids they’re smart, you might be doing it all wrong. Research published in the journal Psychological Science says that telling your little ones they’re killing it in the classroom might have some negative “unintended consequences. ” The study found that praising kids for simply being…

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